"6 Ways to Bless a Broken Heart" - Rev. Tracy M. Williams
“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted, and he saves those whose spirits have been crushed” (Psalm 34:18 NCV).
Every one of us will experience loss. So how does God heal your broken heart? You don’t get over a loss. You can’t go under it; you can’t go around it. You’ve got to go through the grief. And if you’re scared to express emotion and refuse to go through it, that’s where you get stuck.
But how do you get unstuck? You let God help you. Here are six ways God blesses a broken heart.
1. God draws you close to himself.
Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and he saves those whose spirits have been crushed” (NCV). When you grieve, you often feel like God is a million miles away. But what you feel and what is real are not always the same thing. God’s not a million miles away. In fact, he’s never been any closer.
2. God grieves with you.
The Bible says Jesus was “a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief” (Isaiah 53:3 NLT). When you come to Jesus with your grief, he knows what you’re talking about, and he understands your pain. God is a suffering God, and he is a sympathetic God. He’s not aloof; he’s not apathetic. He’s not standing on the sidelines.
3. God gives you a church family for support.
We’re meant to grieve in community. Healing comes in groups. Healing comes in the church. Healing comes in community. We’re better together! “In Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others . . . Be devoted to each other like a loving family . . . Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn” (Romans 12:5, 10, 15 NIV/GW).
4. God uses grief to help you grow.
God uses grief and even pain to help you become more like Christ, and he does it in three ways.
First, God uses pain to get your attention (Proverbs 20:30). Second, he brings good out of bad (Romans 8:28). Third, he prepares you for eternity (2 Corinthians 4:17-18).
5. God gives you the hope of heaven.
There are many people who grieve without hope. Your life on this earth is short, but if you believe in Jesus Christ and trust him for your salvation, then you have the hope of spending eternity in heaven with God, and that hope will sustain you through your time of loss. The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 4:13, “We don’t want you to be ignorant about those who have died. We don’t want you to grieve like other people who have no hope” (GW).
6. God uses your pain to help others.
This is called redemptive pain; it is the highest and best use of the pain you go through. God does not want you to waste a hurt. “[God] comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us” (2 Corinthians 1:4 NLT)
HOW TO PRAY:
Pray for our Bellflower neighbors who are experiencing grief due to loss of a loved one or a major life crisis
Pray that God would show you at least one tangible way you can be a source of hope for someone in your neighborhood, workplace, school, or congregation who is experiencing grief
Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and he saves those whose spirits have been crushed.”
About the Author: The Rev. Tracy Williams is the pastor of Holy Redeemer Lutheran Church in Bellflower, California. She began her ministry with the Lutheran church in 2015 where she went through the process of becoming ordinated. She is a former educator for 18 years for the public and private school system. She was also a mental health therapist for five years with Pacific Clinics and several group homes working with children and youth. Pastor Tracy as she is affectionately called started her ministry at Holy Redeemer in October 2016, where she served as a TEEM pastor. Before coming to the Lutheran Church, she had been in ministry for 10 years at Trinity Baptist Church as an associate pastor under Rev. Alvin Tunstill. The TEEM pastor serves a church under a supervisor until they are ordinated. She holds three Masters, in Education, Psychology and in Divinity. Pastor Tracy was official ordinated as the pastor on October 21, 2018 at Holy Redeemer with a wonderful celebration with family and friends. She is a blessing to our church and community and is working tireless to impact for world for Christ. She is a mother of three young adults and grandmother of two Deontae, 19 and Keyhlani, 8 who brings her much joy. Pastor Tracy loves the Lord and her favorite Bible verse is Psalm 100. She is very honored to serve at Holy Redeemer as their pastor and looking forward to many blessed years.